“It was how I misplaced my virginity and I felt silly.”
This put up consists of descriptions of sexual assault.
Sophie Ellis-Bextor is getting candid about being raped by an older man when she was simply 17.
In an excerpt from the British musician’s upcoming memoir, Spinning Plates, Sophie mirrored on the expertise and the way it has impacted the remainder of her life.
Sophie defined that as a pupil, she met a 29-year-old musician named Jim throughout an evening out at a gig. He invited her again to his place to have a look at his historical past books however issues quickly took a flip.
“Earlier than I knew it, we had been on his mattress and he took off my knickers…I heard myself saying ‘No’ and ‘I do not need to,’ but it surely did not make any distinction,” Sophie wrote.
She continued, “He had intercourse with me, and I felt so ashamed…It was how I misplaced my virginity and I felt silly. I felt grubby, but additionally not sure about my very own emotions as I had no different expertise to check it with.”
Sophie famous that on the time, the expertise did not align to what she had been taught about rape — that it was “related to aggression” and violence.
“Nobody had pinned me down or shouted at me to make me comply…My expertise was not violent. All that occurred was I wasn’t listened to. Of the 2 folks there, one stated ‘sure’, the opposite stated ‘no’, and the ‘sure’ individual did it anyway,” Sophie stated.
She added, “The older I’ve develop into, the extra stark that 29-year-old man ignoring 17-year-old me has appeared.”
On the time, Sophie believed she “did not have a case” in opposition to her attacker and compelled herself to maneuver on together with her life, selecting to succeed regardless of the unfavourable scenario.
Now, Sophie makes positive her 5 sons know concerning the significance of consent “fairly early” within the hopes of elevating thoughtful younger males.
Spinning Plates is ready to be launched October 7.
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